How can I reward good behaviour?
Everyone loves getting praise – but children need cues to connect rewards to their behaviour.
Give praise straight after they’ve behaved well. Be specific and say what you’re pleased about: “Well done for getting ready so quickly! That’s really helpful, thank you.”
Praise doesn’t have to be verbal – a thumbs-up, a hug or a smile works just as well. Don’t just keep approval for when they’ve done something outstanding, though. If you appreciated how they were quiet while you were on the phone, let them know!
Try to praise your child for who they are, as well as what they do: “I love how funny you are, you make me laugh!” or “I’m proud of how kind you are to your friends”. It’s great to model self-praise and accepting compliments, too – something lots of us forget to do for ourselves!
Praise is usually all a child needs as a reward but, you can choose to give a small gift (a sticker, a book or crayons) if you like, explaining what behaviour they’re getting it for.
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